I have read a few parenting books. Actually, if I am honest, I have started a few parenting books but once I have got the gist of them, they are confined to the book shelf. One book though that has been particularly helpful is ‘The 5 Love Languages of Children’ by G Chapman and R Campbell.
In a nutshell, ‘The 5 Love Languages’ are –
- Acts of Service
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
Where we go wrong, is that we show our love towards our children in the way that we feel loved. For example, the ‘Love Language’ I like to receive is Words of Affirmation (my husband jokes that I am all of them!) so I am always encouraging my children and telling them how much I love them. However, I think they know this so don’t feel particularly loved when i say it – they like to see it in action. The oldest would prefer Presents (funny that) and the middle, Quality time. This also works with your other half and friends.
I thoroughly recommend you buy a copy and work out who is what.
Please order through your local bookstore and keep small book shops alive!